0:00:00.0 S1: Welcome to the very first episode of the spiritual AF Life Podcast. There are some amazing conversations, stories and insight that away to
0:00:10.5 S2: The spiritual AF life meaning spiritual AF as an as in the bad word. Yeah, you might hear some swearing, this is a place where we're not gonna take life or spirituality so seriously.
0:00:22.1 S1: In fact, it's a place where we're going to bring the high vibe and spiritual world down to earth. In fact, the gold is podcast is to help you apply some of the spiritual techniques and philosophies to your daily life, we're going to take all that we who and bring it down to a practical way so that you can apply it every single day in your daily life, unlike other spiritual teachers, I wanna help you get off of your meditation pillow and connecting to yourself in spirit and the daily... And through out your day, invisible guidance is always available to us. Always trying to chat with us during the day, so I'm stepping in to help you make it an incredible, incredible spiritual AF-life through fascinating conversations with experts, uplifting stories of spiritual communication, as well as a deeper dive on some spiritual practices that help me go from sick to psychic, I thought for the first podcast though, we should get to know each other, that's why I created five crazy AF life lessons that I learned are OTP Cal, they all have a spiritual approach through these life lessons, I'll share with you pieces of my crazy life story so far, and to help me to get to know you, introduce yourself in my Facebook group, it's called The rise into your power, and definitely subscribe to this podcast, and if you've noticed how like we are, and maybe one of these life lessons really hit home for you leave a review to let me know which ones 'cause it would be amazing and any other kind of insight or how this podcast has touched you.
0:01:59.4 S2: Alright, well, I am ready. I am so stoked that you are here on this journey with me, let's... In to today's conversation.
0:02:11.1 S1: Are you ready to talk about five crazy AF life lessons? I know that I am so... Okay, don't know this about me. I really came from a crazy... A life for reals and maybe that you can relate, maybe are one of those people who have really have signed up for tough life or a crazy life for the crazy family with some really interesting life lessons. And so the first lesson that I learned in my life that I feel it could also help you is to see people as characters in your movie. When I learned about this concept, I was like, What?
0:02:56.0 S2: Oh my gosh, I totally makes sense. So think of your life right now as a movie and it's playing out and you are at the star of the show.
0:03:04.5 S1: And then the people that are around you, your family and friends, they are characters in your movie. So when I think about my life, looking back on it, with my crazy childhood, and I mean like, Okay, we moved all the time because we were getting evicted all of the time, I remember so many times just having to get all my toys out of the dumpster because my mom didn't pay the rent and then all of our toys ended up in there, all of her clothes ended up in the dumpsters, I remember a few times coming home from school and I don't even have a house... We're living in a hotel, we're homeless, we're trying to go to the homesite, so it was a pretty crazy life, and for a long time I had resentment 'cause I was like, Oh my gosh, I only... If I would have had this growing up, if I would have had that, then maybe I could have this now or be a certain way... Well, now I look back on it and I'm like, Wow, my mom was one of the most interesting characters in my life, in a case, you don't know, my mom passed away in 2019, I spent...
0:04:08.9 S1: What is that? Two years almost, or just over two years, it feels like two months, to be honest, and for a long time, I was like, Oh my Gosh, if my mom would have been different, my mom would have shown me love, if my mom would have done this or that, but it was really crazy because when she passed or when she was sick with her cancer, that's when I realized she was my greatest teacher, she was an amazing teacher because by not being the perfect mom, by not always being there for me, by basically feeding me to the wolves... A lot of the times, she ended up showing me that I needed to be independent, and that taught me how strong or truly am, and she was an amazing teacher when I look back on that now, and she was in an amazing character in my movie, the thing is is that we are all here on Earth playing a certain part, I am Heather, and this is the only time I could ever be Heather, Danielle, in this way, and this is the only time where you can be the person that you are right now.
0:05:11.7 S1: And this is your movie, and all of the people that are in your life are your characters, we'll think about it sometimes. Do some of them need an upgrade, do you need to look at one of the characters in your life right now, and from a different perspective, like I did my mom, I think it's really amazing, we think about it because... Think about the best movie you ever seen, your best book you've ever seen, probably isn't like, Oh, the girl is beautiful and she has everything that she wants, and then she goes through life getting everything that she wants, and nothing bad ever happens. That's the fucking movie. I'm not sure for a... See that. So think back about your life and the challenges that you've been through like a movie, and I can do that now, and I'm like, Man, I am... So also look at what I've overcome, and look at the people that are in my life that are playing the main characters or they are playing the role, you have a switch roles too, so if you have a friend... But then again, you're like, Oh, I wanna change up that role for them, and maybe they become your boyfriend, your husband, your wife...
0:06:16.4 S2: Right. So it was really interesting to look at it that way. And now I look back on my life as a movie and I am like, Whoa, my spirit guide must be popping a squat somewhere and just tossing back to popcorn... Right. What in the world is how they're going to do next, but now instead of having a lot of challenges and mean things coming my way, I have a lot of awesomeness, right. So I'm gonna show you and tell you and free forth people on this podcast, that is really going to help you switch up your life, transform your life so that you are just manifesting asserts of goodness and the trauma part of your life is over. Right. Well, for the most part, we signed up for this human life with a lot of crazy stuff, so I will be perfect. It will be awesome. We didn't sign up for a perfect... When we came here, I became here to learn grow that kind of stuff, so
0:07:11.5 S1: It's just gonna be a fun ride and I'm happy that we're in together. Alright, so the second crazy AF-life lesson is people aren't put into your life before a season, I wanted to say for your reason, but the truth is, is that a lot of times, or sometimes you're not gonna know the reason why they were in your life until a time later. So people come into your life for a season. So if you have people that are coming and going in your life, that's okay. And it's the same thing, like my mom was in my life for a season and she left... It's okay. She could go very far. Furnish her. She's listening in right now. But yeah, she was in my life where he sees it, and now I moved on to a new season in my life, and it can be sad, and we have to go to the healing process and we have to honor our feelings and honor our grief, but then we also have to look at those people that are coming in to our lives, so if you haven't met me before, I'm coming into your life for a reason, and you're coming into my life where it rests pretty exciting, so we can actually see where we are by the people we have in our lives.
0:08:18.2 S2: And I didn't always know that I had gifts, I did not know I was a psychic or medium, I didn't know any of that stuff. I thought those were a gift given by the few, I was super duper jealous of them, and it was really funny because I was dating his guy, we were actually engaged. His name was Jay, and I remember telling Jay a few times, I'm not meant to be with you. I'm not to be with someone else and you are helping you learn those things that I need to learn to be able to be with this other person, and I'll be honest, he wasn't mad about... And either, I remember he didn't believe me. But he was just kind of like, Yeah, okay, you know what, I'm a gas, I'm learning from you. And I did, and I learned a lot of really cool things from him, he had a really good taste of music, and he's actually the one that passed away in a motorcycle accident, but it was a lot of fun when we were together during the good times, and this is gonna sound crazy, but the last book that I read before I met my husband now, was a book that me and Jay had gotten from the library, and that book is what got me and my husband together basically, 'cause the night me and my husband were talking, he was like, Hey, what's the last book you ever read? And I told him that book, and he was god smacked, he was like, I can't believe that you were at that book, and it's been really a big talking point and a foundation in our marriage that's been now for 10 years.
0:09:48.3 S2: Right.
0:09:50.4 S1: Just Northern... Come in for a season, and then Jay left as well. He went to the other side, he transitioned, but then I knew that he got brought into my life at that time for maybe a reason, but even though I wasn't positive on the reason, definitely is far season and I've had other friendships to where I'm really bummed out and I'm sad and I'm heartbroken that we're not friends anymore. But it's just like, Okay, I have learned everything that I had from them. And now it's time to move forward. Okay, so another third, crazy as life lesson is to change, you gotta do things you've never done before, and I really learned this after me and Jay broke up, that's when I met my husband now, his name is Tony, but he likes to go by Robert, so we're gonna call him Robert. Robert and I met through a friend and we were just friends. We were just friends, but it was really funny as the day that I met him, I thought he was really cute. After a while, we hit it off, don't worry, he's gonna be on the podcast, I'm gonna interview him, and it was so funny because I really liked him and he didn't ask me for my number, so finally, I really wanted this number, I really wanted to talk to him, so I finally...
0:11:14.2 S1: Tommaso, I dropped my son off at my mom's house and I was like, I am going after this guy, I need to see him again, and I actually told her, I was like, This is operation, get the hot guys number. I have never went after a guy ever... Right, maybe you can relate. I have always been the one where the guy, she's after me, I don't chase that for the guy, but in this case, I chased after him and guess what? It was the best thing I ever did. Was change up my normal routine. I did something I never did before, so I invite you to do the same, especially if you're looking for a love, then you definitely need to do things you have not done before. Whatever is working right now is not working for you. So I went ahead and it took a lot of pride, took a lot of courage to try and reach out to him to get him... I hung out with the other girl that I met him through, again, shout out to Melanie if listening. And I was like, I need to talk to him, I need to hang out with him.
0:12:11.1 S1: And since then and hanging out with him, I have repeatedly done things differently so that I can change and I can grow, and one of those things was applying for jobs that I don't think that I was good enough for, and I remember just being nervous submitting the online application, but these small little things that I did to change up my routine to do things I've never done before... It transformed my life. My life is completely 100% different than it was before. For example, when I met my husband, I was living in a basement apartment. No shame at all. I love that apartment. I don't know, it was probably like 300 square feet at the most. Maybe if you were too tall. So if you were over five, 10, then you had to duck in his apartment, and it was super duper small and super, super cute, but it was mine and I absolutely loved it. Now, yeah, I just told my sister-in-law came over yesterday, I was like, I need to live by water, I can't be away from water, I was like, I need to move, and she was like, Heather, you know you live off of the lake, and I was like, Oh yeah, I do.
0:13:18.0 S1: And so my life is completely different, and the one thing, it's kind of like a bonus tip to help you get to this new level or to just make whatever you have even better. This is making sure that you have a support system. And that's what my husband was to me, was that he was just that one person that I had that could encourage me, that could support me, that could be my rock to tell me that it was gonna be okay. And as you can imagine after a life of craziness and people being mean to you and bad to you, if you will, it was quite refreshing to have someone be like, Hey, you can do this, you can set to the application, just spit the job application, you're fine. So it was kind of like a bonus tip there, but definitely you gotta do things you've never done before, just make like... You just do it right, so whatever. One little thing... One little step.
0:14:08.4 S2: Right? I think it was Elinor Rose about who said the term, Do something that scares you every day. Now, I don't do that, not every day, but I just make sure that in my life, I'm not getting too comfortable. Right.
0:14:19.0 S1: Because then you're not growing, you're not changing, and we didn't come here to live a mediocre life, we came here to make this the best life we ever lived, who you are right now, and it could only be this person, this once... And the story, the movie is not over yet. If you're listening, the movie is not over yet, you could have a freaking really cool plot twist. It is all up to you right now, number four. Great segue is... You decide what kind of life you wanna live. It's completely up to you.
0:14:54.6 S2: So after me, my husband got married, it was a few years after that, I applied for that job I told you about, I actually got that job, I was so excited, but I have really... I was working with kids at the time, I was a preschool teacher, and I really wanted to have a desk job and I wanna be in one of those offices. And oh my gosh, I wanted it so incredibly bad, and finally, with the help of manifesting in a little bit of inspired action, I got it, I got this job, and it was about nine months in... I think it was about nine months into this job, maybe eight months into this job, they told me that I needed to go to Virginia for 18 months to live there, and I would be sent around the US as well, so my station... Every station in Virginia, I got to be traveling all around, and they couldn't even get guaranteed me that would come back to the same job. If I did this, I doubled my income. If I didn't, I was fired or now, since I'm traveling all over the US, I can't bring my son...
0:16:03.1 S2: Right, that sucks. I don't wanna do that, I wanna be with Him. And then my husband can't come with me because he needs to keep his job here, it's for 18 months. So me and him, we were in such a turmoil, we didn't know what to do because we knew this was an exceptional opportunity for me, for my career. For everything, it was gonna be amazing. But the thing is, is that I love my guys, I, I love my guys. As you can imagine, you don't wanna leave your husband and your son for 18 months... That's freaking crazy. Of course, I can visit them, but how much are playing tickets, I could only afford a flight like once a month, probably, it's fastly because now I was going to have to rent an apartment. So it was really, really funny. So what ended up happening was I couldn't decide what I wanted to do, so I wanted the universe to guide me, even though I didn't know I had abilities or anything, I just knew like, Okay, go with the flow, go with the flow. My husband and I are Dallas GAI to the dog. You followed the way, so I was like, Hey, I'm just gonna go where in LED...
0:17:04.1 S2: Oh my gosh, a very single time I thought that there was a way... Another way would show up. So it was really crazy. I was like, Okay, if I get another job, I'm gonna apply for another job, if I get that job that I'm gonna know, Okay, I'm meant to stay. But then that job opportunity in the interview was after I already got to Virginia, so I'm use... I can't do the interview because I'll be in Virginia at the time... Well, guess what happened?
0:17:28.1 S1: Talk to someone, they're like, Oh, we can move up the interview for you.
0:17:31.6 S2: So I was like, Maybe that's a sign because I'm moving up the interview for me. So basically, it was a lot of back and forth, but that I had to make the decision. What kind of life did I want to live? And I actually made the decision that I was gonna go to Virginia, I decided that I was going to do it, and I made that choice. And it was a heartbreaking. I remember the day that my husband left to come back here, he drove down with me, and then he flew back up here, 'cause I would have my car... Right. And I remember that airport, my heart was just shattering, I actually got on the phone, called my mom as soon as his plane left, and I was like, I don't even know what I'm gonna do, and I remember I couldn't even last a month without Him without my son and I came back up here like two weeks later, it was so crazy, and I remember being at the airport leaving to go back after those two weeks, going back to Virginia, and I remember thinking like, I'm just going back to Virginia just so I can get my car and leave because I am not staying there, and as soon as I got back to my apartment in Virginia, and I was just gonna leave, I was gonna pack up everything...
0:18:40.6 S2: I can't do this, and I'm gonna go back to Michigan. There was a note on the counter, to be honest with you, I didn't recognize the handwriting, but it was mine, and it said, Heather, I know that this is tough, but you're going to make through this. You're gonna get through this. You got this. And for some reason, I was just like, Wow, I was so insightful and I decided to stay and honestly, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, but I learned about my abilities when I was down there, I became a psychic medium, I started talking to dead people, I started talking to the other side. How, how can we... Crazy is that I started, I learned about psychic abilities, I learned that I was extremely good, so I've learned that I was an impact to the highest degree. I was so credibly sensitive and impairs on who takes on energy is very absorbent of energy is very sensitive energy, and that is 100% me and I had no idea. And because of this, I'm able to feel better, I'm happier. I cannot imagine my life without knowing that had disabilities, and I surly do not know how spirit would have gotten...
0:19:49.5 S2: There's a cross to me, if I wanna stay here, maybe they would have... Maybe they wouldn't have. The thing is, is that not just with my abilities, but that trip, I've had some of the most amazing, crazy, awesome. Life experiences, because of that, I went to the Pentagon, I got lean, I went to the Pentagon and I actually had meetings with SSS, which are senior executive services services. So basically see active service, they're quiet to the Generals for the civilian sector in the freaking pentagon. I remember one day when I just wanted to have a field trip there, but now I actually not only went there, but I actually had meetings with these high people... Oh my gosh, I still blows my mind. And so I have to make that choice. Spirit was not going to push me to go to Virginia, spirit was not going to be like, Oh, this is for your highest good, because you know, even though we can choose what were our highest that the thing is, is that we still have that choice. We have free will. We can do whatever we want. Literally, we can do whatever we want.
0:20:55.3 S2: Be a very... Well, you think you can't leave right now and move out of state, you think that you can't go live wherever or do whatever, but the truth is that you can... For whatever reason, you're not, maybe because you're happy where you are, or maybe it's a limiting belief, but anyway, you decide what kind of life that you wanna live, and I think that's fucking crazy. But don't worry, right? If you don't like the life you're living right now... Change up that movie. Change up that story, right? So now, the fifth and final crazy a life lesson is the key to life, period, but the key is to be your full self... To be your full self. One of the books that really changed my life was called the after life of Billy fingers by an Akan. That books about... She talks to her brother who passed on, again, she know she had abilities and that kind of thing, he starts talking to Heather, she passed, and what he says is that one of the purposes of life is to create a love affair with yourself, and honestly, I couldn't agree more, because whatever you are destined to do in your life, so whatever your life purpose is, or you think it is, the truth is it's about being the truest form of O, my belief is that we all are specs of the divine, having this unique human experience.
0:22:25.9 S2: And it is your unique perspective that is going to make a crazy impact on your life, purpose and a world in this earth.
0:22:33.9 S1: Right. So is it's so crazy because I think I spent most of my life trying not to be who I was because I was so... Wanting to make others happy. Because that made me happy. If they were happy, I was happy.
0:22:54.0 S2: And I was doing myself an incredible disservice and I was doing them a disservice, because now, because I am my full self, that I am, I scan, I am in a medium, and I am a spiritual coach, and I do all these things on my light inside of me is shining so much brighter than it ever has, and when you shine your light, you get permission to other people to do the same, so I just think about all the people that may be you're impacting their lives, but how much they impact your life and vice versa, because I opened up to my gifts and I am who I am when my mom was sick and passed away, and my family was right there by me and they were like, Heather, what's going on? And I was able to give them some really amazing experiences for their life as well, and maybe it opens up their mind a little bit more... Yeah, my family, like most of them are religious, most of them are skeptical of this kind of thing, or they were... But the more I tried my light, now all of a sudden, it's like it gets contagious, and now all of a sudden they're like, Oh my gosh, it's opening up different signs of them...
0:24:00.7 S2: So you might feel like me and you might be like, wow, but these people are so much stronger than me, they're so much more crazier than I am, and I felt the same way, but I just became more of who I am and now I'm so unapologetic about who I am, but
0:24:16.8 S1: You get that over a little bit of time, a little bit of confidence, and you get to be confident in who you are once you accept who you are...
0:24:26.7 S2: Isn't that really interesting? You become confident in yourself when you finally accept all those parts of yourself, and maybe you're only accepting some parts and you're confident in, and then other areas, maybe you're not confident 'cause you have an accepted fully every part of yourself yet.
0:24:47.9 S1: So now it's... So probably amazing because you learned a lot about me from my childhood, You know, I mean to my young adulthood with Jay in my 20s and then marrying my husband and stuff, so now I coach other people to open up their own unite gifts, and I teach them how to use spirituality to make themselves happy or healthier, to even create a business if they want... Whatever that they wanna do. And it's so credibly amazing. And that's the reason why that I designed to start this podcast, to be honest, right. It's because I'm a talker, I'm a big, big talker. In fact, back in the day, they used to call me like a job or draws, the color will stop talking, and you know what hurt my feelings, I cried, I felt bad, but the truth is, is that I was still always talking.
0:25:38.0 S2: It doesn't really click how to tell you this, my sister has this video of us on Christmas morning, and it's so funny because you can't see me in the video and you could see my other brothers and sisters, you can say it my sister, which you can't see me, but the whole time, the whole time this video was running, which is probably like an hour, hour and a half or so, you can hear me the whole time, I am literally talking to myself or no one... I don't know, I think that this video that I seen, I was like five or six years old, I think. And I'm just sitting here talking to myself, I don't even need an audience when I talk, I also there gonna talk to myself. Right, so that's the reason why I decided to start this podcast 'cause it's like, Oh, podcast is talking and I get to talk to you, and I absolutely love that, but I had to accept that part of myself, I am a talker, and podcasting is great for talks right. Yes, I wish I could show you the video, it would be so much fun.
0:26:38.1 S1: So the key is to be your full self, to accept those parts of yourself, and you might not accept every little part of yourself right now, but I work on it, and then definitely see those things where you did accept yourself and where you do have a confidence right, and if you can get confidence in that area and covers all the rest of it, haters are gonna hate it, just be yourself, you don't try it in even one area, so right now, I can be a talker, but at one point... It was a few years ago, me and my husband were having a couples game night party.
0:27:13.9 S2: It was so much fun, by the way, and we were playing the newly wed game, and the question was, you know, asked to my husband, what does your wife have too much of now in my head, I'm like, Oh, he's gonna say person, he's gonna say clothes, I have too many... What was it like the store things... My mom was always go to the first store, so I would always get things from her and with her and that kind of thing. And you know what he said? He said, She has too much personality. I remember as soon as you said that, like my heart shattered, I remember feeling so bad and I mean, I cried, I literally cried. I had to excuse myself going to the room, I was very upset at him because I'm like, Well, he doesn't even accept me for who I am, that I am crazy, I am who I am, and he thinks I have too much personality, like I thought that he would love that about me, but he doesn't, and he didn't even accept it until I took a little bit, but now I find love my personality, I forget love.
0:28:25.6 S2: I love the fact that he said that I have too much personality because that is who I wanna be, because that is truly who I am. I have never been the quiet introverted one in the corner, I've always been the one that's vocal, that's loud and that kind of thing, and now I finally accepted it, and it's so funny because once I accepted it, I feel like he accepted it even more, and now I know that he loves that part about me because we balanced each other, because he's more quiet and introverted for the most part, and I'm more crazy, right. So I thought that was really funny, I had to share it with you.
0:28:58.9 S1: So yes, I hope that you have loved these crazy... A life lessons, okay. So see people as characters in your movie and people are put into your life for a season, number three, to change, you gotta do things you never did before. Number four, you decide what kind of life you wanna live, and number five, the key is to be your full self. Now, I hope you love that, I hope you learned a lot about me too, because we're gonna be stuck in the here together, but I also wanna learn about you. So the first thing that I want you to do is so creature, I want you on this journey with me and what you on this path or past cross for a reason, stay with me long enough to figure out what that reason is. And the second one is in a review for the show, and tell me which one of these resonated with you the most. Okay, so what kind of stories do we have in common, which memories that brought up in your life and from your past, or what are you looking most forward to implementing... 'cause I wanna read and I wanna know about it, and I can't wait to get to know you.
0:30:13.3 S1: And I will talk to you, so
